What's love got to do with it?
Love might seem like fluff, but it’s not.
Love is a human superpower—an animating force in our world.
It’s one of the most important tools I share as a coach because it changes outcomes.
Not by forcing people to change but by changing how you show up.
Love can help you transform tension-filled relationships into much more easeful ones—with yourself and with others.
And it applies far beyond marriage.
Love has EVERYTHING TO DO WITH IT!
Love is a life strategy
You can shift your relationship with food and exercise with love.
You can address burnout with love.
You can pivot in your career with love.
You can learn to argue with love and address marriage conflicts with love.
Parenting teenagers and young adults—and caring for aging parents—becomes much easier when you stick with love rather than catastrophizing.
You can even declutter, simplify, and release roles and responsibilities with love.
Why love can feel unfamiliar to physicians
This approach often feels unfamiliar to those of us trained in medicine.
We are expert fixers and problem-solvers.
We are trained to anticipate, correct, optimize, and prevent.
Love almost never fixes or problem-solves for other people. Love supports and guides others so they can figure out how to do it themselves.
Love is not rescuing.
Love is not managing.
Love is not controlling.
Love is steady, present, honest, courageous, curious, and vulnerable.
“What would love do?” is my signature coaching question for a reason.
It interrupts urgency, fear, and the reflex to fix, and it helps you choose an approach that is more humane—and more sustainable.