The Grass Isn’t Greener: Mindful Love in Real Life

The grass is not necessarily greener over there.

Even if your brain tells you it is.

The grass will not necessarily be greener in a different job, a different life, a different city, or with a different partner…

It wont necessarily be greener when your partner behaves differently, loves differently, parents differently, has different expectations, or handles money differently.

The grass is not necessarily greener when your kids get older. Or when you move. Or when “this season” finally ends.

The grass is greener where you water it.

What does watering the grass look like?

• being mindful

• pausing and being present

• noticing and being aware

• focusing your attention with intention

• looking for what works and what is going well

It looks like acceptance and acknowledgment of life as it is, allowing imperfection and humanity, and opting out of:

• catastrophizing

• resisting reality

• negativity bias

• people pleasing

• perfectionism

Watering the grass looks like choosing with intention how you want to show up and proceed.

It looks like grace and compassion—for yourself and for others, telling good stories, and asking good questions.

Questions that water the grass

What would love do?

What would compassion do?

What would peace do?

What would connection do?

What would a thriving, well-watered lawn do?

Before you make a big change, water the grass well.

If, after you’ve watered it, you still want to make a change—then do it - from clarity—not scarcity.

If you want support learning these tools, reach out.

If this is showing up in your career, 1:1 coaching or Transition Well Small group coaching will be super helpful. If it is showing up most in your relationships—especially as a physician in a high-stress or neurodiverse dynamic— Mindful Love will be a game changer.