Your relationship with your adult children is longer than your relationship with your children as kids and there is a lot of time to get it right and wrong. And it usually turns out fine either way.

There is no failure just learning. Sometimes there is more learning when it doesn't go right than when it does.

Mindfulness and coaching have helped me become a much better parenting teammate. Supporting your teammates and playing to their strengths is a great strategy. Micromanaging and criticizing usually don't lead to the best team experience or results.

Most people can IMMEDIATELY think of something —even if it feels “unusual” or not clearly explainable. It is often a restaurant, a small shop, or a place you felt immediately “home” but didn’t know why. Envy isn’t necessarily a “bad” thing.

Coaching doesn’t just create insight—it changes how you live. A client reflection on legacy, 50/50, and becoming more herself. A beautiful reminder: you can be working things out and still be thriving—especially when you stop waiting and start living.

Nourishment is a prerequisite for transformation. Being the best possible parent, spouse, friend, doctor, colleague, and contributor to a better world are not possible from a place of depletion.

There are many ways to nourish yourself. Healthy food is but one.

When you don't connect with your passion you are for sure uncomfortable. The desire to follow your passion may lead you to change something in your life. Or the passion for what you are already doing may be hidden just under the surface- masked by your thoughts and the busyness of life.

I like to coach in from the feeling line because it is where I see the most powerful and transformative mindset shifts from a place of ease rather than force or pushing.

This past week the shifts in predominant feelings after 5 days of mindful coaching and nourishing yoga at my retreat were inspiring and honestly led me and others to tingles….

Focus on the feelings. They are your experience. They are your guideposts to create the life of your dreams.

When things are really good we often feel uncomfortable and many of us don’t know how to truly enjoy them and allow abundance and feel proud. Our nefarious or trouble-making thoughts are not usually conscious. And they are so so common.

“You grow what you practice.”

So now that I have noticed the problem I am back on track. Practicing the capacity to have, feeling proud, and appreciating the abundance and magical transformations I was privileged to be a part of.

What if you “unbecame” all that you were not, let go of striving, and instead chose to be soft, gentle, spacious, buoyant?

It's helpful to have a coach who has experienced your training, and who has insight into the medical culture. It doesn't solve all your problems, but it will help you to see yourself as more capable and leave behind perspectives that limit your perception of your self-worth and your capacity to improve.”

Sometimes life throws out a lot of swirl.

And pausing and being present in the swirl is part of the journey.

Rushing to solve and fix and decide is tempting but it often means you miss the offered lesson and growth.

Mindfulness and coaching allow me to see this and then to live it with those I love. It is especially helpful in my neurodiverse marriage and with my mother.

Once again I am back to my guiding words for 2021– love, abundance, grounded, and proud.

When I chose these words I did not understand how they would —and should —seep deeply into every nook and cranny of my life.

Autism may seem like a negative. But as coaching teaches you- it is merely a neutral fact.

Some days our neurodiverse marriage is a fact that feels like a heavy brick, and I wish it was different. On other days it feels like a gift.

Because of our neurodiversity, I have had to grow in ways I didn't know I needed or wanted to. And that growth was good. In fact, it was amazing.

It's good and bad. Like everything in life.

Somedays “should” be great days but they don’t always feel that way. Even if on paper they look great.

Even when you do all the things you wanted and hoped for and that should have felt nourishing, sometimes even then you feel wobbly and unsure.

These days are different from Down Days.

Lighter but with a nervous energetic unsteadiness.

have decided to call them Wobble Days.

Everyone has them.

They are part of being human. Nothing has gone wrong.

Funny how feelings feel so consuming. Like the down days will never end. Or how the hard times feel overwhelming.

This is a down day, and there will again be up days. I know this to be true. I have experienced the truth of this. I just needed that reminder.

My husband saw me when I couldn’t see myself. I was not dancing my heart.

I was missing the moments and missing out on my best self. I did not pause.

I was not often, truly present. And I did not often lean into or even listen to my heart's desires and wisdom.

Sometimes we need someone to help us see what’s inside of us.

To believe in us more than we believe in ourselves, and to guide us to discover who we really are.

"Beauty fullness" is not perfect. It has bumps and is twisty and scraggly like the crabapple tree. It has idiosyncrasies and even pokey parts.

Beautifulness is real, authentic, loving, giving, and present. It is nurturing, connecting, grounded, trusting, feeling, calm, and kind.

Your beautifulness is hidden within. Even if you can't see it or feel it right now. Likely allowing it to be seen feels vulnerable and uncomfortable and hard.

Start by asking yourself a question: "What is one thing about yourself that you would not change?

What if it turns out better than you expect? It can and often does.

At the moment, it all seemed “bad” and overwhelming. I could not see the way forward or a way through.

Today I see that it has turned out amazing. Clearly, it happened exactly as it was supposed to.