299. Fun Filter: Deciding What Lights You Up (with Dr. Melissa Parsons)

In this special co-released episode, we’re joined by Dr. Melissa Parsons—fellow retired pediatrician, coach, and kindred spirit—for a conversation about living through a “fun filter.” We explore what it looks like to let joy, ease, and alignment guide our decisions instead of obligation, striving, or outdated beliefs. Together, we reflect on our own transitions out of pediatrics, how we’ve redefined success, and the freedom that comes when we allow ourselves to change, grow, and choose what lights us up. We also share honest moments about parenting adult children, reimagining purpose, and how sometimes the most meaningful transformations begin when we stop pushing and start listening. If you’ve been wondering what gets to be “enough,” this episode offers a gentler compass.

In this episode, we explore:

  • What a “fun filter” is (and what it isn’t)

  • Redefining success after leaving a long-held identity

  • Why we don’t have to earn rest, joy, or white space

  • How change can be a sign of being fully alive

  • Letting alignment and impact coexist

Pearls of Wisdom

  • Choosing what’s fun is not frivolous and it can be freeing.

  • You don’t have to earn rest, white space, or joy.

  • Change doesn’t make you flighty, it means you’re alive.

  • Fun and impact can coexist.

  • “Enough” isn’t a milestone; it’s a mindset.

Reflection Questions

  • What currently feels fun, easy, or light in your life?

  • Where might you be holding onto old definitions of “success” or “productivity”?

  • What might open up if you trusted fun as a valid reason to say yes—or no?

Resources & Links

Disclaimer: Nothing shared on the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.

FAQ

What is a “fun filter”?
A way of making decisions by noticing what feels light, aligned, energizing, and easeful—rather than choosing from obligation or striving.

Is choosing fun the same as avoiding responsibility?
No. In this conversation, “fun” is framed as a wise compass—one that can coexist with meaningful impact.

Who is this episode for?
Anyone navigating a transition, redefining success, or craving more joy and ease in their next season—especially high-achievers and helping professionals.

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